Being driven by the meaningless cultural pressures, expectations which cross the acceptable limits, and even the way someone is raised are the common scenarios which can be easily found in all walks of life. They lead a lot of people to form unhealthy habits and engagements resulting in reduced mental strength.
Recognizing your unhealthy habits is the first step in creating positive change. When you give up the things that are holding you back, your good habits become much more effective.
Here are the 12 things mentally strong person would never do:
1. Tough challenges are their ally.
Whether it’s a new opportunity at work or it’s an uncomfortable conversation you need to have with a friend, avoiding tough challenges will keep you stuck. Challenge yourself to grow a little stronger every day and you’ll build the confidence you need to tackle tough challenges head-on.
2. Breaking the rules is in their nature.
People in the mediocre surrounding are encouraged to be live by the means and follow the rules. But, it’s often the rule breakers who change the world. Whether it’s an unwritten rule about gender norms or an official rule that’s holding you back, breaking a few rules could be key to helping you break free of the things that are holding you back.
3. They don’t wait for perfection, instead set their own standards.
There’s a cruel ironic twist to perfectionism; it causes you to perform worse. The fear of not being good enough and the pressure to not make a mistake will backfire. Establish high expectations for yourself but don’t set the bar impossibly high.
4. They don’t put others down to lift themselves up.
It may be tempting to try and move up the social pecking order by putting others down. But no one truly gets ahead by pointing out other people’s flaws. Genuine cheerleaders attract the support and positivity that’s necessary to succeed.
5. Finding strength in vulnerability is their USP.
Although asking for help or admitting you’re struggling are sometimes viewed as weaknesses, vulnerability is actually a strength. After all, it takes courage to put yourself in a position where you risk being hurt. But being vulnerable is key to forming meaningful relationships.
6. Self-doubt just slows you, they know it very well.
Self-doubt is normal but you don’t have to let it stop you from reaching your goals. Your brain will doubt your competence but don’t believe everything you think. Self-doubt can actually fuel your efforts, but you have to be willing to forge ahead even when you aren’t completely confident.
Everyone has the ability to build more mental muscle. The best way to grow stronger is to identify the counterproductive bad habits that are holding you back. Then you can work smarter, not just harder.
When you get rid of those unproductive habits, your healthy habits — like practicing gratitude and spending time with supportive people — will become much more effective.
7. Wasting time in comparison is not their thing.
Comparing yourself to other people is like comparing apples and oranges. You won’t gain anything by measuring your happiness, wealth, and appearance against other people. The only person you should compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.
8. Constant self-reinvention is their lifelong practice.
As you mature, your personality and values will shift and it’s important to adjust your life accordingly. Whether you shift careers at age 40, or you redesign your life at 60, reinventing yourself reflects your personal growth.
9. They don’t overthink everything.
Overthinking isn’t the same as problem-solving. Overthinking involves rehashing things that already happened or catastrophizing the future. Problem-solving is about looking for solutions. Commit to problem-solving and productive action, not dwelling on your problems.
10. Allowing others to limit their potential is a strict no for them.
Whether someone told you that you’d never amount to anything or you got turned down for a promotion, don’t let rejection and harsh criticism stop you. Learn how to believe in yourself and you’ll be less affected by other people’s opinions.
11. They own their success completely.
Many people find compliments make them cringe. They struggle to hear nice things about their work because they don’t feel worthy of their success. But it’s OK to own your success. Acknowledging your effort doesn’t make you arrogant.
12. They don’t play blame games.
While it’s important to accept responsibility for your behavior, toxic self-blame will backfire. Saying, “I made a bad choice,” rather than, “I’m a bad person,” is the key to doing better in the future.
Are you one of them? Share your views in the comments!